With the many groups I coach, a common question that comes up is “How do I deal with other people’s negativity and hostility, especially in this environment where most people are willing to put others down to make themselves look good?” My answer simply is: You just worry about making yourself the best example of a human being you can possibly be. Being human, you will make mistakes – it won’t be your first, it won’t be your last. Some people will make bigger mistakes than you, some people will make smaller mistakes than you – it does not mean they are any worst or better than you. Strive to learn and grow. Don’t waste your time and energies trying to figure other people out, spend this time and energy understanding yourself first. Many times people have their own issues that have nothing to do with you directly. Some people will take their baggage, strap it to your back and ask you to carry it barefoot across the country for them…but only if you let them. The other half the time they are not even fully aware of how abrasive they may come off. However, I want to make very clear if it is a form of harassment: verbal abuse, sexual harassment, discrimination, bullying or stalking – these are not to be tolerated and should be immediately reported accordingly to the proper supervisors and authorities as required. Thankfully, most of the cases I’ve heard of are people being either just unaware, unprofessional and the very few - hurtful. In all three of those cases – use them as shining examples of what NOT to be; resonate from a higher source. Remember, there’s always a learning experience in everything we come across, so focus on spending the time and energy in growing yourself. G.R.G.I! - GD
